I ignored his emotions and efforts. Other options. Do you think he needs time to digest. shes a beautiful person inside and out and I love her so much. And like you are doing he is now begging me to take him back. I think the logic simply works differently. I found out just how much about a month ago because I looked at the phone bill (we still share a lot of the bills). Work on being the best person you can be. I hope you would recollect my situation about my ex using ($$) me to her advantage and i have told you how she talked to me irresponsibly?. The act of letting go is simply the act of moving forward without the person you loved. For their sake, I wish it would work but for mine I just want it over. And depressed so I found some ways to alter my mind drugs and didnt physically cheat but read postings. He says hes been feeling so down he hasnt even thought about getting married anytime recently. I never regretted . My son has said who is this man, this is not my father. Hes been one of my best friends since college and my boyfriend knew that. ad an abortion. So if a person has been drinking and certainly using drugs, it means they, too, have been hurt in some way. Thank you so much. He has cheated on me each year weve been together and then some. Are you not satisfied? He showed me true regret for his actions this weekend, but today, I am so scared. I have been in a fully committed relationship for 2 years. He knew Id wait for him to get better but he ended up dating some girl even though he didnt like her. So those are 3 areas to work on in therapy. ive made huge changes to me! Although I can tell she still is not in love with me, I can see little tiny improvements in our relationship. You are working on all of it. His friend has emotionally abused me and I dont understand why my partner cant consider this. Perhaps Im wrong but thats the implication from your letter. Ive been telling him its over, treating him badly. bring her to meet ur parents. We had been together for barely a year (long-distance) at the time and I couldnt see the potential for another 2 years long distance in different countries, so he chose the job in my city and thats where the problem started. About a year and a half later they started talking again on Facebook. Hurt is a reaction to fear, and in a place of Love, there is no room for fear or anything else. I dont need you to tell us what you did to him. Hi Betty, This situation may be your wake-up call to take care of yourself. I didnt work to understand him as a person. My wife and I have been together for nearly 6 years, 3 of which are married. or that you are together and he wont let you return to the States (if that is home). One day we had a short argument. This is HER way and her problem. nobody. I feel like you could have summed this up by saying this: Shes a few years younger. I could have stopped this from happening because it is illegal to take kids more than 70 miles from their parent. I take full responsibility for my actions and am deeply sorry and I will truly do anything to have a second chance with her. This is the first time since we broke up thats hes called just because. She claims they are innocent, friends tell friends, I love you all the time, she says. These steps are going to help me more than you will ever know!! I said things to him like right person, wrong circumstances, and I even told him I wished Id never met him. DrDeb I am thrilled to see that you continue to actively monitor this post. Like I said I never had a good example of a man or what to do in a healthy relationship, so for the most part I was kind of clueless on the fundamentals, so I made a lot of rookie mistakes. It just got worse, she didnt have a job and was away from family. After a year, I graduated and had a great summer spending a lot of time with my girlfriend and seeing wonderful places all over the state. Also he doesnt easily forgive when hurt. He started talking to a 22 year old in South Dakota through Skype. Your boyfriend didnt cause you to not get into the grad program of get the job. You, sir, will be lunch for my iguana, Ignacio . And I dont know if Ill be able to get him back. And what can I do to make him trust me again? For 3 weeks I slept on the couch. Im from surrey and she lives in Yorkshire where we both live now I moved up just under 5 years ago and bar the natural small bumps in any relationship everything has been perfect and until now I was certain that was on both sides. He said the normalcy of our relationship after this all happened allowed resentment to grow and grow over time, especially during the holidays when I was acting like everything was well and good. Not that much for me. Interesting that he has a not-nice mother and an ex-wife that was not nice. Should I continue to work on our relationship and eventually she will come back or should I move on? he said that he wants to break up and no communication at all. I am slowly getting over him, the last three weeks I have been in such utter despair and pain, memories that break my heart anew every time I remember them. Needless to say I am pregnant again, miserable, and up with my SN daughter since 3 bc he feels entitled to smoke pot and play games till early in the morning. I love this woman with every ounce of my soul. hi Nadine, It was one of the most confusing and hardest things Ive ever done, wondering why I was causing myself so much pain and leaving the first girl I have truly loved. He grabbed his phone back and texted her and said nvm and we were like done at the airport I was crying my eyes out and I was so disappointed because he obviously was lying to me. The beauty of a movie date is that you can sit back and enjoy an hour or two without having to do any work at all. i have broken it all . It sounds also like you are blessed with a caring and loving husband. Doing everything herself, w/o you? She doesnt want to be mad at her parents, or hear the counselor say that they were bad parents. We are in the office Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Pacific Time; our phone number is 888-563-2112 ext. I dont know what to do. When he got back, we talked some but most of these conversations ended with him being frustrated and me being devastated. I see this man as my husband and life partner, but he does not see me that way anymore and is not attracted or interested, though he has said there is some love but its not romantic. She finally left me on September 5th. Hello Dr. Deb May I recommend a video on my own website called 3 keys to a spectacular marriage? Because of his issues, I feel like I am on a constant roller coaster ride. How do I go about trusting him when I am not home. I get scared of these things when we argue like this and I wanna know what to do to help my relationship be the best it can be? Dear Dr. I know it sounds weird that I am sixteen and so young but if you have ever gotten that feeling like hes the one and you just feel so comfortable around him you would understand. Hi Clara, I wanted my boyfriend to comfort me but since he didnt know what to do and I didnt tell him what I wanted things got bad. I am 36 and my fiance is 29 we have 2 children together. I feel horrible. If you loved someone very much would you ever want to watch their self destruction? Because when you do that, youve created true intimacy. He keeps on saying I feel empty inside because you have hurt me before. I nagged at her all the time, I have no clue why? He gets frustrated that I dont trust him but hes willing to do anything to get me to understand. I told her I will never give up on our marriage and would never consider a divorce. I so crushed and heartbroken right now. Then he said he would cut back to quit and that was almost 2 years ago. My husband was working in his workshop on her step-fathers car which had been brought in for repairs at the time I made this discovery. But she was okay with her role in his life as long as she had him and that hed have to put up with me his bm drama. Be strong and know that relationships are a two way street not one sided. I need help. The challenges you face in your marriage might leave you feeling like the union is over and that it's time to separate. Despite all this, I didnt support him. And sexual encounter just happened. But I know that I pushed him away. He is a good provider goes to church, and he is a good father. but i really love him. I still have feelings for her but i think she still does too but she the Ok our relationship of going bad only my fault. Thank you. The problem to me seems like you cant separate in your mind the good man from the bad things he is doing. He than confessed to have very strong feelings for the band singer. You see, he is blocked from his feelings because that is his SAFETY zone. That said, I would not think this will work while he has someone else in the wings. What I cant understand why things need to change now he knows?!!! I love him and i dont want to ever lose him. I love my husband with all my heart, I love my kids and my family and I believe, when there are kids, a marriage is worth saving. Given that theres no communication and all, this is where it gets tough. How do I do my part in fixing this? Do you think he could possible be cheating? It is the basis of love and loyalty. Im struggling with communication issues with my partner. And he wants to know why and how things would be different now. But first, let me say Im sorry if I was harsh. What happens if years before reading this partner one tries these things and it doesnt work then a few years later after partner one decides to b finished partner two finally decides to try. I was with someone for 7 years through out this relationship there was a current drug use addiction and I turned into someone I cant even comprehend today. We met over facebook neither of us looking for someone just one of those chance meetings hit it off completely, both incredibly similar when it comes to the deepest things but quite different on the outside. It works. We both love each other and care for each other but as of lately I feel as if Im falling out of love with him. She wants to end both relationships between me and her cheating lover. I have lost all her trust. I believe this website will help you understand that field. I am so emotional, physically, and mentally attached to this man I am with. She has also been studying out of the country for the past 2 years. You might attraction and repulsion towards someone. He also has another less popular twitter account which I also hacked. I knew I had lost him. And while she was away. Then, when our bucket is full it is easier not to count: did he do this for me? She told me how they had sex and how thats not the first time and they hang out a lot and they go out to eat and etc. The next day she began an online relationship with an old high-school fling from India (we went to boarding school), their relationship was very sexual and they exchanged pictures and videos, I was aware of the whole thing and read and saw everything. That said, the fact that the two of you were loyal to one another until you broke up with him shows some maturity. Also the American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (aamft.org) has information. 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